We have been working a lot more lately on bringing the child to realize their heart behind their actions when disobedient.
But I started thinking, that might be difficult when we focus so much on the ACT rather than the heart.
I get irritated because I am trying to finish up something I am doing and get angry with one of the children because they interrupted me. But their heart was one of sharing. Or I get frustrated with them because in cleaning up the spilled milk on the floor, they leave the wet rag on the wooden floor. When their heart was one of being helpful, and they just forgot to put it away in their excitement.
So I want to start focusing on the heart when they are obedient too. And in praising them, praise the heart behind the matter.
I appreciate your kindness in wanting to share that with mommy, but remember to be patient and not interrupt mommy.
Thank you for your hard work in cleaning up the floor, now remember to be diligent and put the rag where it belongs when you are done. Thanks for being such a hard worker!
I think this will also help develop character in the children. I think it is easy to become prideful when all you are praised for is your work and not the heart behind the work.
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