Thursday, September 10, 2009

Daily Life and Death

Today is my Aunt's memorial service and lunch. She died VERY unexpectedly. My Uncle went out to get the paper and when he came back, she was dead. An autopsy (to determine cause of death) reported that her body just gave out.

My Uncle barely escaped Tower 2 right before it collapsed. I have called my Aunt and Uncle every year since Sept 11 on Sept 11. And it was not until her death that I learned that Sept 11 was also memorable because that was their wedding anniversary. They would have been married 38 years tomorrow.

I used to make family videos every year and send them to family. I stopped after 2005 because my MIL made a comment about this AWESOME thing (going on and on about it) that April discovered in 2006. I commented that if she had watched the movie I made, she would have seen all the girls doing that very thing. Knowing that no one but us were watching the videos made me very sad. I put a lot of work and effort into making those videos.

Well, come to find out how special those were to my Aunt. She seemed to know she was going to die soon, and spent the last few months of her life watching those videos I sent over and over again. OH if I had only known! The things you find out AFTER a person dies. :( I would have made more videos and sent her more pictures had I known how important to her they were.

So now, I am making videos again. I will be sending one to my Uncle this year instead of them both. But he will know how important that is ... to both of us.

Today I video taped the cute little way JJ waves (using his WHOLE arm, and how his little body shakes with him). I video taped the girls learning to spool knit FINALLY.

Now to learn to balance life between photography (I love taking pictures - you can't tell because it takes me so long to load them up I don't post very many) and video taping.

Please pray for me. Today is very hard. I loved my Aunt. While we were not very close growing up (mostly because my parents never kept in close contact), Sept 11, 2001 brought us close together. I called her, and that opened the door to a very short lived friendship. She told Uncle Frank I was her best friend. I miss her deeply. And I never knew how much those videos meant to her. I never knew.


Tabby said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll try to do a better job of thanking people and letting them know what they mean to me. It's a shame for people to feel unappreciated, just for lack of a few simple words. Thanks for sharing your special relationship with your Aunt. Will be praying for your Uncle and your family. (((hugs)))

Cindy said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your aunt! I don't even know what else to say.....death is so hard. :( Fortunately for Christians it is not the end! I will be praying for you at this difficult time.